Also, funny aside...my email (as you know) was about unsubscribing from people who aren't adding value to your life, and 6 people unsubscribed from the newsletter! I couldn't help but laugh.
Hey, if I'm not adding value, I completely agree. Run away from here so you don't have to just delete emails. Do you do that to? That's totally what I do. I just delete all the Best Buy and Altar'd State emails I get (unless there's a sale). I should just unsubscribe. Oh wait. I did. But the emails KEEP COMING BACK!
But I digress.
I crazy loved your responses. I felt so encouraged by all of you, and I hope what I had to offer in return encouraged you as well.
One in particular really felt like a nugget of wisdom, so I thought I'd share it with you today.
"The funny thing I discovered when I unsubscribed from certain people, is that those who were dearest to me suddenly subscribed to me! That is the best way to describe the change in those relationships. From the moment I unsubscribed from them and they came back to me, the relationship was on my terms - and none of the hurtful words were ever repeated again! My parents began to see and treat me as a real adult (I was 32, a wife and a mother when this happened. About bloody time, don't you agree?).
So unsubscribing doesn't have to be the end of a relationship, but it certainly is a huge step towards self-confidence and self-appreciation. And the first often follows from the second :)."
As I read that (after I chuckled at "about bloody time"), I felt one of those "wow" moments we've all had. Unsubscribing doesn't have to be the end. I didn't cover that in what I said, but when I saw Chris say it, the truth rang out and I asked if I could share it with all of you. She agreed.
If you're still a bit concerned about unsubscribing from someone, I hope you'll take Chris's words as encouragement today. If that person values you, they'll make sure to resubscribe to you in a healthy way where you aren't the one always put down. And if they DON'T, maybe that can be a giant flashing sign letting you know you deserve better than they were for you.
So today is short and sweet. I wanted to thank you all for the replies I received. I was so overwhelmed by them and honored and humbled to have you listening to me as I shout out into the void, wondering if it falls on deaf ears.
Thank you. And as this hopefully proved, I'm here if you need me.
If you didn't participate last week, but want to, it's never too late. Reply to this email with three positive words about you and three negative things others have said to/about you. We can combat these demons together.
Also, I included some information on an anthology that's coming soon that I, personally, adore. So if you're interested, check it out :)
Keep on wowing people, gang. You are beautiful, creative, smart, kind, funny--you are YOU and no one can take that or copy it.
Embrace your swanitude.
Kelsey Humbled Swan